Home educating when they’re sick

Sunday night I was rudely awoken by the sound of vomiting. Great! My poor little boy was then sick every hour or so for the rest of the night and into Monday morning. This meant that our plans to meet up with a home educating family, that we haven’t seen in ages, had to be cancelled. Not E’s fault but disappointing nonetheless.

Whilst he spent most of the day alternating between throwing up, sleeping and watching TV, I had to find alternative ways of occupying the girls. R is quite good and finding things to do, she likes to cook her own lunch, play with online friends or read a book. She’s also just signed up to MWorld, an educational app that helps them learn all about the world around them. With topics from animals to the human body, to space, early civilisations and more. We’re really looking forward to see all it has to offer and exploring new topics.

The younger two girls still need more of my time. We had a few deliveries recently from Amazon and Approved food, so we made a big box fort to play in. The guinea pigs have also been able to enjoy the fort, and lots of cuddles from the girls. We had a gingerbread train kit that we decorated before devouring. S has begun playing Minecraft and is learning lots from that. She’s such a sensitive soul though, and gets quite upset when she has to kill the animals.

In the evening M came round and made slime with the girls using PVA glue, eyewash, paint and bicarbonate of soda. I’m not sure of the exact measurements but it kept them busy for quite a while.  The only problem is I now have tubs of various coloured slime all over the house. Today has been another quiet day whilst E recovers. We have done some colouring and making shapes out of paper. We’ve read books and played, and the house has been tidied.

Hopefully the girls will avoid getting the sick bug and we can get back to normal.

A day in the city

Some times I wonder why I do it. Why do I go to busy places on my own with 4 small children, 1 of whom has diagnosed Autism and 1 who has extra needs. Why do I give myself the added stress? Today was one of those days. I took the children to city.

I was nervous before we left the house about going into the city, and to a museum no less, with all the children. E struggles with museums, they are noisy, busy, claustrophobic and not often very child friendly. Today there was an activity planned for the children to help make a giant Lego art picture. I thought it could be fun.

We went on the park and ride bus as the children love a bus ride. We walked the short distance to the museum, so far so good. As soon as we stepped inside it all started to go wrong. I hadn’t even got my purse out of my bag before E ran out of the museum. I retrieved him and struggled trying to hold him whilst handing over our tickets. Maybe he’ll be fine once we get to the Lego I thought.

R loved the Lego and is looking forward to seeing the finished piece displayed in the local library.  Little S had a go with the Lego but wasn’t able to complete a square for the picture. S decided she would rather just play quietly in the gardens with some of the other children. E threw Lego everywhere, kicked me, tipped over chairs, shouted, tried to run, and hid under the hood of his jacket.

Maybe I should go home? No, I can’t let a meltdown ruin the day for everyone. We walked past a traditional sweetshop and decided to pop in for a look. The children marvelled at all the sweets. We all chose something small and went in search of some lunch. After lunch we went to find our bus and go back to the car.

We had a few minutes wait for the bus, another challenging time for E. I’m on high alert for the next meltdown, as well as watching the 3 girls next to a busy city road. By the time the bus arrived I had to carry E on, and find us a seat.

It must be time to go home right? No, now we must brave the perils of Tesco as the cupboards at home are bare. I have to put Little S in the trolley otherwise she will run around, she is tired now and over stimulated. We’ve barely been inside 2 minutes when E drops his lolly pop from the sweet shop, it shatters all over the floor. He runs to find a hiding place. I spot him curled up in a ball at the end of an aisle, he’s sobbing. I can’t get too close or he’ll run away. I find some shopping items I need on a shelf nearby and pretend he’s not there. I carry on with my shopping, keeping him in my eyeline. I want to go and comfort my crying child but I can’t.

The girls are great, R and S go to nearby aisles for bits we need. Eventually E has calmed and he is ready to talk. I explain that I was able to collect the lolly and wrap it up. It’s safely in my bag so we can wash it when we get home if he would still like it. I know he probably won’t want it, but if I tell him it’s gone forever then he will fall into another meltdown.

We try to complete our shopping as quickly as possible but now E is well and truly ready to go home. I don’t have time to check my list, I just call out items I think we need and the girls grab them and throw them in the trolley. Little S has a pint of milk that she’s clutching in her little hands. She accidentally drops it and it sprays everywhere. Uncontrollable crying ensues. R goes to find a member of staff to help with the spillage and S goes to get another pint of milk for her sister. My two older girls are so helpful and grown up at only 9 and 5.

We finally finish and pay as quickly as possible. The girl behind the checkout is lovely and lets Little S scan some of the shopping. I am completely frazzled. We go home and the kids settled down to watch a film. I put the shopping away and have a much needed cup of tea.

Some days out with my children are amazing, some are well……

My Random Musings

Time to explore

Apologies for the quiet spell, I’ve had a few blog problems and have also been busy with the kiddies.  The cold, grey and often wet weather is somewhat stunting our ability to spend much time outside. Although we do take the opportunity to explore whenever possible, even if only for an hour or two.

Over the past few weeks we have been to Moors Valley, Upton Country Park, and Knowlton Church. The children do love to explore the outdoors, make dens and see friends. Poppy dog also enjoys or outside days when she is able to join us.

We have also enjoyed going to a café for breakfast after an early start dropping our car at the garage. We’ve spent time with Grandparents and baked cakes. We dissected our old and broken vacuum cleaner, to see what was inside. Our Dyson challenge cards came out one day and we tried a few experiments. Yesterday our National Trust membership card arrived so we will have many more places to explore this coming year.

E has had many appointments since the beginning of the year. He does find them very challenging but he does so well. We finally have an official diagnosis of Autism for him, and are hoping that this may provide us with some much needed support.

 

Identifying signs of stress in your child (and helping them cope with it)

Today I have a  guest post from Zara Lewis, a designer, freelance writer, contributing blogger for High Style Life and full time mummy of two little ones. I hope your enjoy reading it as much as I did.

Identifying signs of stress in your child (and helping them cope with it)

According to the data provided by the American Psychology Association, there are a lot of factors that influence children’s well-being and unfortunately – different stress triggers go unnoticed by most of the parents. We are used to associating stress with adulthood but the truth is – kids have their own personal reasons for worrying. They usually fear not being good enough or failing in school, or they struggle with motivation to study, which may be one of the reasons why there is an increase of 62% in the last decade regarding parents who choose homeschooling. Other worries include maintaining relationships with their siblings, handling peer pressure, and parents’ financial state. Here’s how you can help your child cope with stress.

Learn to recognize a cry for help

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Too often we perceive everything from our own adult perspective. While objectively, we may think there’s really no reason for our children to worry about anything, it is wrong to disregard their feelings. Your child might approach you and complain about feeling sick or worried and you should never try to solve this situation simply by saying – you’re fine. You need to encourage your child to express their feelings, and formulate what exactly is the thing that’s bothering them. By learning this, your child will set a cornerstone for developing emotional intelligence which is extremely important for mental health. Initiate a conversation, validate their feelings, and make sure you’re not pushing too hard.

Embrace the benefits of art therapy

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There is a beautiful quote by the famous painter Pablo Picasso: Art washes from the soul the dust of everyday life. Kids are naturally artistic and creative and surely – many find communicating via words exhausting or hard. Expressing thoughts and feelings is a lot easier with a white canvas to start with and the possibilities hidden behind highlighters, crayons, watercolors or ink. Art therapy is very efficient for children on the autism spectrum as they usually have different ways of interacting with people, in comparison to neurotypical persons. Children with autism have a specific sensor system which makes it hard to cope with the overwhelming sensations from the outer world. This can be rather stressful both for the child and the parent, but art has proven to be a great, gentle way for handling sensory processing issues and encouraging creative thinking.

A good night’s sleep is crucial

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Sleep is extremely important for your child’s physical and mental health. Stress can often disrupt sleep and you need to address this issue as quickly as possible. Insomnia is nerve-wracking and it makes every problem seem larger than it truly is. To ensure a good night’s sleep, try establishing a bedtime routine that will help your child unwind. Always provide clean and fresh sheets: use soothing scents such as vanilla or lavender to induce sleep. Air quality is also important: vent the room regularly to regulate humidity and temperature. A warm bath right before bed will calm your child and prepare their body for sleep. If insomnia stays persistent, your child might be struggling with melatonin deficiency and, therefore maybe needs supplements, but prior to taking any further steps on your own you should contact pediatrician, who might suggest some natural healing methods.

Try different ways of relaxation

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Leisure time and light physical activity can help your child reach much-needed balance. Engage in a conversation with your little one in order to find a type of exercise that he will actually enjoy. It’s important to gradually build a healthy attitude towards these habits so that your child doesn’t perceive it as a boring duty. For example, cycling has multiple benefits and kids usually love it as a fun way to get to know the neighborhood or relax in nature. It triggers a healthy thirst for an adventure and helps with getting rid of any fears from the outer world. Also, encourage your child to enjoy quiet time and daydream. In this fast-paced world, we forget the importance of slowing down and just relaxing by doing nothing. Playtime is crucial for child’s healthy well-being as it helps kids develop their interests, discover new parts of their identities, build social skills, and handle emotions. It’s an irreplaceable source of happiness: humans are hardwired to enjoy playtime and it has proven to be a great way to reduce anxiety.

Encourage your child to find their own pace

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From the earliest age, children are prone to comparing themselves to others. This may trigger anxiety, feelings of falling behind or not fitting in. Make sure your child understands the beauty of the diversity and that the only right tempo to follow in life is their own. Lead by the desire to belong to a certain group, your child might suppress their own identity that started forming, but it’s all part of growing up. Most children learn to value authenticity later in life.

Children are sensitive and they are like little sponges, soaking in everything around them and processing it in a very complex way. Support them in any way you can, as they have it harder than we may think.

Midway through December already!

 

I can’t quite believe we are halfway through December already! It seems only last week that it was summer. The weather is changing now, it’s much cooler and wetter and we’re entering a phase of relative hibernation. We are still enjoying our visits to Moors Valley and Upton Country Park though, as well as our Home ed. group meetings on Tuesdays. The children love to be outside when the weather and health permit. Making dens, seeing friends, playing and running. We’ve had a few coughs and colds over the last week or two, so have missed a few of our regular meet ups.

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Monday saw R turn 9, Daddy took the day and we spent time together unfortunately I was suffering from mild vertigo, and feeling rather dizzy. this meant that our day at Moors Valley had to be substituted for a trip the cinema, where I could sit down but the was still something for the children to enjoy. We went to see Moana, it was a great film full of Disney magic. Being a daytime viewing we had the cinema almost entirely to ourselves, which was lovely. Afterward we went home and had dinner chosen by R. Mexican wraps, her favourite.

December

 

Tuesday was home ed. group. It seems that no matter how many toys or electronics children have they love building forts, houses, cars and more out of cardboard boxes. The mud kitchen was also a hit, with a few requests for “more mud”! The children all enjoy helping to clear up afterwards too, sweeping and washing the floors. We’ve been up to lots of fun at home baking, painting, reading, and we even turned our front door into a snowman! How is your December so far?

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A Perfect Day at Winchester Science Centre

Wednesday was one of those perfect home educating days. Daddy left for work at 7:30am, R was up so she went on the P.C. for an hour to play Roblox and chat to her friends online. The other 3 played quietly together. At half past 8 E had his turn on the P.C. whilst I cooked a full English breakfast. It was lovely eating breakfast together, with the children trying to guess where I was going to take them for the day.

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Once we were all dressed and ready we set off just after 11am. We arrived at Winchester Science Centre around 12 noon to find it bustling with school children. At first glance it looked quite small and I wasn’t sure it would hold my children’s attention for very long. We had a little wander around, tried our hand at making an electrical circuit, and played with Cell Mountain. It was very busy and I could tell E was struggling, so we went to the soft play area as it was empty. The children played there, building a parkour course and dens. After a good play we went to the cafe for a drink and cake. The children went outside to the playground and R made friends with another home educated little girl.

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By the time we’d finished our drinks some of the school groups were starting to leave and our friends were arriving. The children were then able to really explore and learn. We bounced about in the giant colon, tested our flexibility, balance, speed and reflexes. R played on Google Earth looking for China, the South Pole, and finding our house.

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We looked at ourselves through a thermal imaging camera, and tried to shake our own hands in a concave mirror that made our reflection appear 3-dimensional. We discovered that it takes more energy to make materials such as glass, from scratch that from recycled resources. We tested theories on motion and weight distribution. E and his friend put together an X-ray skeleton, working out which bones went where. We looked at fossilised dinosaur poop and bones.

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There was so much to see and do, we didn’t get chance to do it all. The children had so much fun they want to go again next month. It’s given the children a few ideas of topics the want to delve deeper into. R is particularly keen to learn more about China.

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On the way home we stopped at a motorway service station and had McDonalds for dinner. We played tic-tac-toe whilst we ate and the children were all so good. Not far from our house a Barn Owl swooped over the front of our car, E and I got an amazing view of it. By the time we got home it was straight to bed for the little ones. They were an absolute delight the whole day. Being on my own, somewhere new and busy with 4 children can sometimes be a little daunting. They really were perfect, it’s a shame Daddy had to go to work.

A Perfect Day.

 

J is for Joy

For me joy is being with my children everyday. Watching them growing, learning and enjoying their childhoods. Having the freedom to spend whole days outside, exploring the wilderness, and being with friends.

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Joy is allowing my children to follow their dreams and interests. Learning at our own pace. Doing a maths workbook because they enjoy it, writing a story together or painting a picture. Learning about the stars and the moon by going out in the dark at looking up. Filling our minds with wonder, and asking question upon question. art

It’s baking a cake or making pancakes for breakfast. Staying up late to research Ancient Greece or finding out about The Tudors, knowing that we can have a lie in the next day.
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It is a complete joy to watch my children develop a love of learning, and a thirst for knowledge. They are discovering all about the world by being in the world, not solely by reading about it in a book. We surround ourselves with opportunities to expand our knowledge, push our limits, and learn new and exciting things.

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Joy is home education.

Joy

 

 

 

Me Becoming Mum

Pottery Cool

A is for Activities!

As a mum of 4 children and a home educator, I am always on the look out for new and exciting activities to do with the children. I was recently asked if I would review Pottery Cool Studio Set. My girls in particular love doing all things crafty, so this was great for them.

When the parcel arrived in the post they couldn’t wait to get their hands on it. Unfortunately, we couldn’t get started straight away as it needed batteries. After much nagging we walked down to the corner shop to buy some.

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The girls decided which of the projects from the instruction booklet they wanted to try first. R chose a little jewelry holder, which was nice and simple to make. S chose a dog shaped photo holder, that was a little trickier and more fiddly. The instructions would have been easier to follow with better pictures, but we got there in the end.

Little S loved the sensory element of playing with the wet clay as it spun round on the potters wheel. As she was a little young at 3 to follow the instructions, she used some leftover clay to make a little pen holder/vase.

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The clay was left to dry overnight as per the instructions, but the following day it still felt quite damp so we left it for another day before painting. While S was painting her dog, one of its ears did fall off which was a little disappointing but we have managed to stick it back on.

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We enjoyed painting our clay creations, and particularly loved the metallic paints. R (aged 8) says “It’s a great way to get creative and stop you getting bored” We are looking forward to see what else we can make and buying some extra Pottery Cool clay disks in the future.

 

**We were sent the Pottery Cool Studio Set for the purpose of review. All opinions are our own.**

Me Becoming Mum

Blogtober16 – Day 31

OK, so, Blogtober16 started really well and I was able to write everyday for a couple of weeks. Then it all went a bit wrong! I missed a couple of days, then my page had technical problems and went offline for 2 days. (That was really horrible, I was emailing everyone I knew trying to get it fixed!) Since then I’ve not managed any more Blogtober16 posts, oops! I guess there’s always next year and Blogtober17.

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During November Hex Mum Plus One and Me Becoming Mum are running #AlphaBlogBites. Where a different letter prompt will be given for each day of the month, plus a couple of bonus prompts as November has more days than the alphabet has letters. I am hoping to join with some of those. I did enjoy writing more often during October and having a daily prompt was great.

I thought it might also be nice to ask you, my lovely readers, if you have any questions about home education or our unschooling life that you would like me to answer. I can answer them here on my blog in a special Q&A post. Please leave your questions in the comment section below or you can email them to me at happyhandley@outlook.com.

Hotter and Hattie

Having lived in the Bournemouth area my whole life, (I was born on the old Bournemouth Hospital) I thought I knew the area rather well. When I was invited by Hotter shoes to try out some of their footwear on a tour of Bournemouth I didn’t expect to actually learn anything.

I was sent a pair of GORE-TEX® shoes from Hotter to wear on the walk. There were a few other bloggers there, including Hattie of Hattie’s Walking Talks. The tour was fascinating, with History from all era’s discussed. Hattie talked about the founding of Bournemouth by Lewis Tregonwell in 1812, and how it grew into the bustling town it is today.

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I was surprised to see that some shops have been in the town since 1876, and are still trading today (some with the original sign!). There is some captivating architecture in Bournemouth high street that I’d never even noticed before because I hadn’t thought to look up. Some of my old haunts from my teen years had a great tale to tell, and an interesting history.

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We visited Giggi’s the Italian Gelateria, owned by Luigi ‘Giggi’ Bray who was brought up in Alezio in Southern Italy. We tried some of his outstanding ice cream, all made on site. He offers a fantastic range of flavours, including vegan ice creams and assorted sorbets.

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The tour took around an hour and a half, and throughout the walk my feet were very comfortable and did not ache at all at the end. I have worn my Hotter “Ramble” shoes a good few times now, and still love them. I chose the Ramble shoes as being a country girl I walk a lot on uneven, wet and muddy ground with the dog and with the children.

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My feet are always well supported, warm and dry during my walks. My only regret with my choice of shoe, is that I should have gone for the purple ones!!

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If ever you’re in Bournemouth and fancy an educational tour, I would highly recommend Hattie’s Walking Talks. Make sure of course that you equip your feet with a great pair of shoes from Hotter too. To help you with your choice here is a voucher code for £10 off your shoes plus FREE delivery*.

 

 

*T&C’s – £10 off plus FREE delivery is for first orders only. You are entitled to £10 off the total order value of any full priced items in the Hotter range (excluding shoe care products) plus FREE delivery.  This offer cannot be used in conjunction with any other promotional offer or on Sale or Factory Clearance items and gift vouchers. Expires 29/1/17

 

**I was sent the Ramble shoes for the purpose of review, all opinions in this post are my own.**