Our Home Educating Style

February 17, 2016 - family
Our Home Educating Style

Long before I had children I always like the idea of home educating, but like many, I though I had to do school at home. So when R came along, all full of energy and mischief I began to doubt my ability to teach her. In reality though, before she even began school I had already taught her to walk, talk, use cutlery, write her name and much more. Over the years I often thought about home education but it was never much more than a fleeting thought or a casual mention of how lovely it might be.

Then in 2014 I started noticing how unhappy the children were. We had to fight to get E to school, often dragging him screaming. R would often complain of tummy pain before school or be in tears because something at school was upsetting her. I starting looking into home education more closely, joining Facebook groups, troweling through website after website.


S (4) teaching herself to write

What I learned changed our lives. I didn’t have to follow the National Curriculum or use workbooks, and we wouldn’t have to sit around the kitchen table for hours everyday doing Maths or English. In fact we could learn just as we had before we had started school, through life. In January 2016 I wrote the the Head teacher of the children’s school and informed her that the children would no longer be attending and instead would be educated at home.

I had planned on using a semi-structured method of educating the children. A little of the basics and a lot of fun but first we decided to take some time to de-school. Get school out of our system, mine included, and learn about each other, our interests and learn to relax again. Almost immediately the children began arguing less, sleeping better, eating better and laughing more. We were altogether a happier household.

As we de-schooled I started seeing how much the children were learning through play, YouTube,  books, spending time with friends and family and by visiting places that interested them. Through a visit to Beaulieu R discovered her love of history and has spent a lot of time since with her head in a historical book and has recently joined a local Youth Archaeology club. She enjoys playing Minecraft in Ancient Greece and watching period dramas. Through her interest she is learning to socialise, read, write, do art, maths, science, and geography as well as the obvious history.


S learning about clocks by playing cards

After seeing just how much they learn in a completely unschooled way we have decided to continue this way of learning and even expand it into other areas of our life too. We have spent a lot of time in the kitchen together learning about food, what is good for you, what is not so great, where food comes from and how to grow it. I have slowly begun letting the children have more control over what and when they eat. Allowing them to make choices about their own diets and needs. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by their choices, children are amazingly in tune with what their bodies need and how much. The majority of the time the stop eating when they are full, and although I encourage them eat whats on their plates as I don’t like waste, I don’t force them to clear their plates. We do have a family meal in the evening around the table where we can learn good manners, talk about day and discuss our interests. We all get a choice of the meals on the menu for the week and unlike what some may expect the children don’t choose chips everyday.

The way we learn work in this house isn’t about me teaching the children what I think they need to know, but about helping them to learn and teach themselves through what interests them. Once they know where they can find what they need to know they can continue to learn all through their lives, become self motivated learners, think for themselves and enjoy consuming knowledge and expanding their minds.

This relaxed way of life suits us well but I understand it may not be the right way for everyone. Its also quite possible that as the children grow and their needs change our style of educating may also change but isn’t that the great benefit of home educating? Being able to follow your child’s needs and adapt and change to suit them.




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This resonates with me as our experience so far has been very similar. Since removing our girls from school we’ve gone from a semi-structured approach to no structure at all (unless they request it , which the eldest occasionally does).I’m loving it and the relaxed atmosphere is so lovely. I look back at our old life and feel blessed that we made the decision to home educate 🙂


Very glad to hear that this has worked for you – I know others who have similar stories. I’m not sure I would have the patience myself, but it sounds as if it’s worked out very well for you and your kids.

Phoebe @ Lou Messugo

What a big decision to make and so happy for you and your kids that it’s working out. The way you put it it does sound lovely but I know I could never do it; I need time apart from my boys to be a good mum and I wouldn’t have the patience to teach them.

The Mummy Adventure

I love the idea of letting them learn by finding what interests them most and like you thought I wouldn’t be able to teach before realising that everything my son knew up to now had been from me. At the moment home schooling isn’t for me but if mine started to get unhappy at school then it would definitely be a route I would consider.


It is interesting to hear and see how the children are learning, and being able to share my love of history with R. I was, I have to admit totally unsure about the ‘un-scooled’ approach to educating the children. However, this last year has transformed that view as I have seen the children leap forward in their love of learning and take giant steps in their knowledge of everything from the traditional ‘3 r’s’ to archaeology, gardening, the circle of life, computer programming and everything inbetween! Mummy, as always, knows best! 🙂


When the boys were younger I considered it. Mini really struggles sometimes with school. I wish I was cleverer, both of the boys are smarter than me!


That’s great that it really works for you – looks like they’re thriving!


Home schooling does sound like an idyllic choice if it’s done well. I really admire you for doing this – sounds as though it’s the perfect solution for your family.

Mummy Endeavours

I would love to do this. I work two days a week though and I’m not sure I’d want to give up my little job. I would definitely do it though if my children seemed unhappy in school. It sounds like you are all doing brilliantly x


Children are all so different and it’s great that we can do what is best for our children – my two love the social side of school as well as the learning so I know homeschooling wouldn’t be right for them but if I thought it was then I wouldn’t hesitate x


Home schooling is something that I have always been intrested in. I just worry that I Wouldn’t be good enough for E but I’m sure that every parent feels that way. x


Your approach sounds lovely, I am sure they thrive this way 🙂 My two seem happy at school but I would consider homeschooling if that ever changed x


I love your approach x I know homeschooling is a brilliant thing


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