One thing I love about being a parent is watching my children grow in all aspects of their lives. Being with my children all day everyday I get to see all of it, from first word to first time they write their name. The moment they learn to ride a bike without stabilisers to when they begin to read independently.
Daddy and I were discussing S this weekend. Her peers are all starting school next week and although academically she is more than ready, she suffers from separation anxiety from me. We left her at Nanny’s for a sleep over Friday and she was very excited but cried when I left. It reaffirmed to me that home educating is right for her. I couldn’t leave her every morning at the school gate crying for me.
Daddy asked me if I thought that her spending all her time with me would make her worse. Would she become a clingy child who never left my side?
No, I don’t think she will.
She will grow in confidence with me by her side helping her feel safe. She is not clingy now. She is adventurous and sociable. She loves to explore and says hello to everyone she meets both young and old. Her sunshiny nature beams for all to see, and she bubbles over with love and laughter. She may take a little longer to feel comfortable being away from me but when she is ready she will be happy to do so.
I was in the shower this morning and little S wanted to join me. So in she hopped and opened her arms for a cuddle. At first she was wary of the the water splashing down on her, turning away from it. Gradually, with gentle encouragement from me she began to put her hands under the water. Playing with it and feeling it run through her little hands. Then I slowly turned so the water ran down her back. Eventually I was able to wash her hair as she helped. By the end of the shower she was putting her face under the stream of warm water, mouth open and tongue out.
Her confidence grew not because I had put her in the shower and left her to it, but because I had been there with her every step of the way. She felt safe with me by her side.
I want all of my children to grow in this way. From learning to read, to riding a bike. Eventually they will venture out into the wide world alone and they will feel safe because they’ve been there already with me by their side.